Boy am I glad that President Noynoy Aquino doesn’t support the American version of the divorce bill. Sadly, though, he believes that the government should offer an extended version of Legal Separation where separated couples re-marry.
‘The President said he was for legal separation “that would use stringent (requirements) to ascertain there are irreconcilable differences (between a couple)… but at the end of the day, they should be allowed to re-marry.”’ – from the Philippine Daily Inquirer
In that case, it cannot be called Legal Separation. Separation only implies being physically away from each other, but still the law recognizes that you are husband and wife. Then what should we call it? Still, divorce. It’s still divorce no matter how we look at it. It’s just that PNoy wants more stringent rules and conditions before being granted this “privilege” of being married again.
This approval from our President implies this: It’s okay to get married now, because if you make a mistake of marrying this guy, we can opt for legal separation. All we have to do is prove that we have irreconcilable differences. First of all, is there a couple here who doesn’t have irreconcilable differences? The only irreconcilable difference I could think of now is difference in religious beliefs. Other than that, differences in preference for how adobo should be cooked are reconcilable. Irreconcilable differences happen only when both parties are proud to admit one’s mistake. Pride is a vice and could always be “cured” by the virtue of humility. Like any virtue, this can be learned over time (albeit short or long period of time).
This approval also implies that you can break the promises you made in the presence of God and your many guests at your wedding. I guess promises are made to be broken. I guess, PNoy could also break his promises during his SONA. All he has to do is to divorce himself from his post. Now that’s good.
I hope and pray that PNoy rethinks his beliefs on marriage. There are two stakeholders who will be affected when couples are given the chance to re-marry: their children and society. The family is the basic unit of society. Destroy it, you destroy the peace and order of society. In a more analogous way, the cell is the basic unit of tissues and organs. Destroy the cell, you destroy the tissue, and consequently the organ. Society will have systemic organ failure in no time when couples re-marry. It will be like a malignant cancer cell. Definitely not benign.
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